When & How to Use The Language of Connection Most people don’t give much thought to the specific words they use. Words just spill out automatically and are expected to accurately convey a message. How about you? The way you phrase things sends its own...
7 Times You Should Probably Shut Up Awhile back I wrote I wrote a blog called “3 Times to Shut Your Mouth” which was—surprise, surprise!—about the nonverbal messages you send by literally closing your mouth. And while it is useful to know when to physically...
What to do When You’re the Target of Anger In my last blog, I wrote about how to manage your anger at work. But (just a wild guess here) it’s not like you’re the only one who ever gets angry. It comes with the territory for humans, which means it’s normal for...
5 Signs You’re Making Someone Uncomfortable … and what to do about it. While waiting for a drink at a coffee shop, I noticed two women in conversation. I was mostly staring off into space, but then something caught my attention. I couldn’t hear the discussion;...
3 Times to Ignore People Your undivided attention is a priceless and meaningful gift. In this age of overwhelming distraction, even a few minutes of focused attention can build rapport, trust, and connection. Because your time and attention are so valuable, be...
When to Avoid Eye Contact One of the most common “body language” tips out there is Look People in the Eye. Make eye contact! I have said it, too. Eye contact demonstrates that you are present and listening, it can show respect and empathy, it conveys confidence, and...